The past 2 weeks I've had the pleasure of reconnecting with former Chaos teammate Mark Glicini. Mark runs his own company, Mark Glicini Peak Performance.
We had a connection since day 1 training camp at IMG in 2019. He, like I , left New York to follow his passion. Fast forward 4 years, and here he is presenting a 3 part series for FCL Online members and FCL athletes.
In our first webinar, the above quote really rang true to me (and he had told me this years back).
"The probability of the outcome you desire increases when you let go of the need to have it."
This quote is from Gary Mack, in his book "Mind Gym." What does it mean? And why should we care?
As athletes, coaches and parents, we, our players, or are kids work so hard at something that they dedicate themselves to. Something that they love. Maybe it's lacrosse, but it can be many things. When you invest so much of your time, resources, and livelihood something, it can mean that much more to you. That is natural. Parents want the best for their kids, and coaches for their players. Athletes want to be the best.
However, when you take a step back, sometimes wanting it SO bad, or NEEDING to win the championship, the game, score the goal, reach your potential can have an adverse effect. Why? It can cause you to play tight. To tense up. To focus too much on outcomes. "I HAVE to do this... or else I..." We lose sight of why we play. We might lose sight of the joy the game brings us, or the process of developing.
Let's not be confused. We are not saying to stop caring. We are not saying that what you are working hard to do, or working towards, doesn't matter. It does. But take some time to also gain perspective. What if it doesn't go your way? Will that define you? Will that make you less of a team, a player, a person? Mark says, "care less, not careless." We don't want to be careless but we want to care a little less sometimes.
Do less, care less. Some people more than others. Our society for years has engrained the hard work in us, the extra drive, the grind. But sometimes more isn't always better. Everyone is different and everyone needs to find their balance.
So when you head into your playoff games, or your next big meeting, or your recruiting summer, be yourself. Remind yourself of the big picture, and the process. Let go of the outcome. Prepare, put in the work, and enjoy the process of the things you are choosing to do in your every day life.
I hope you get to check out these sessions with Mark!
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